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What She’s Secretly Hoping For.

She won’t ask you to hold her hand in public, but she keeps looking down hoping you’ll be the one to make the first move. It’s something so little, but means so much.

She won’t be the first to kiss you, but she’s looking at your lips wondering if you want to.

She won’t tell you the things she scared of or why. But she’s hoping you’ll care enough to learn.

She’s afraid of uncertainty. She’s afraid of being used. She’s afraid of being played. She’s afraid to wake up and watch you leave and know you aren’t coming back.

The type of love she needs is someone who is sure of her. Someone who is honest.

Someone who cares about who she is, not just that she’s a woman who could appease a man sexually. She needs to know “see you soon” actually means you want to see her again and you aren’t just telling her what she wants to hear.

That when she texts you, you’re actually happy to hear from her. That when you talk to her, it isn’t just to kill time because you’re bored.

She won’t tell you she needs a relationship that is both physical and emotional. Because in the past, she’s seen one or the other, but never both.

She won’t tell you she really wants you to meet her family after you’ve been going out for a bit.

She won’t tell you what she needs out of fear those needs will scare you off.

So she’ll tiptoe quietly being too afraid to make any wrong move.

The type of love she needs is one where your words match your actions.

She won’t tell you her favorite flowers, and she would love if you got them.

She won’t tell you her favorite chocolate, but getting them would make her day.

She won’t tell you she wants you to make plans sometimes.

She doesn’t want to tell someone how she needs to be loved, she just wants someone who will love her without needing direction.

She needs someone who will show her it’s okay to rely on someone.

She needs someone who will show her it’s okay to need someone.

She needs someone who will show her it’s okay to want someone.

She needs someone who doesn’t mistake the fact she’s fragile with being weak.

She needs someone who realizes the greatest strength she has is who is she and what she has to offer someone, and that isn’t just because she’s a woman.

But most of all, she needs someone who is going to realize what she needs and respect her enough to step away if one can’t give her that. To step aside if what she’s asking is too much for you. To step aside if you aren’t going to give her everything she needs because there’s someone out there who will.

She needs the love she’s been giving away to everyone to be reciprocated.

She needs the love she won’t ever ask for, but is secretly hoping it finds her.

She needs a love that will make her whole, and not leave her empty.

She needs a love that is kind, honest, and real.

Because she deserves to believe in love again. And she deserves to be loved again.


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Daddy’s Little Girl.

Father’s are a daughter’s first love. The first man who shows you by example this is what she can come to expect from someone. These are the lengths someone is willing to go for you. This is exactly how you deserve to be loved and to never tolerate anything less.

Father’s play a vital role in their daughter’s life, understanding that when she grows up, she’s going to come across people who will disrespect her, who won’t treat her the best, who hurt her and break her heart. But knowing it’ll never be him who does that.

She’ll come home one day crying at 17 over the boy she gave her heart to and all he did was use her. As a father, his heart breaks watching this young woman hurt because of someone else. Wishing and praying she saw herself through his eyes. Because then she’d see herself as truly the most beautiful girl there is.

Father’s teach daughter’s about self-respect. About self-love. What love really means, and that it’s not pain or someone talking down to you. She grows up, and while these expectations he has set for her sometimes feel few and far between with men that still act as boys, she knows there is at least one person who consistently loves, respects her, and treats her well.

From pulling out her chair to opening her door to never paying in his presence. Respecting her thoughts and her opinions, her goals, and ambitions. Believing in her more than anyone else, even if he’s the only one to do so.

Worshipping the ground she walks on and doing everything he possibly can to make her happy and her life better and easier.

Loving her every single day of her life and reminding her that’s what she deserves.

Pushing her to learn and grow and become the best version of herself.

And in return, she adores him more than any man she will ever meet.

How a father treats her, becomes the standard for what she expects of others.

She then enters the world of dating, and every father is going to say “no matter who she ends up with he’ll never be good enough.”

But it’s him she’s looking for in all of them. Bits and pieces of someone who reminds her of her father is who she’ll fall for. Because when you have someone who is the greatest person you know, someone who has treated you well your whole life, someone who has defended you and protected you and taken care of you and has loved you unconditionally no matter what you might have done wrong, that’s what you expect of everyone else. But you know how rare it is.

Because the greatest sign of a respect a daughter can have towards her father, is ending up with someone who is half the man he is. Someone she’s proud to introduce to him. Someone who can live in his shadow. Someone he can give her away to and know she’ll be okay.

Father’s set the standard for what she’ll come to expect, and she’ll spend the rest of her life trying to find a man who can love her at that length.

Knowing very well whoever she gives her heart to, it’s her father she loved first.