For 21 years and counting, I have been the considerate one. The one who has always put others before me. I do it so often that it has become my normal. I almost always second guess myself when I try to make a decision that is only beneficial to me. But is it all really worth it? Is it worth it to sacrifice your mental or physical health to live in a world of missed opportunity or loss?
The answer is no. The more you give, the more people will take. Know when to restrain your generosity and reserve it for those who deserve it. I know I have this motherly nature where taking care of others has become a source of happiness. Because everyone deserves to feel cared for and taken care of. But don’t sacrifice your own happiness for someone else’s. Don’t feel bad for pursuing your dreams or things that make you happy at the expense of those who don’t matter. At the end of the day, it is your life and you can choose who you want to make happy.
Surround yourself with the right people. Your relationships with people should not all be about them. Relationships should be reciprocal. Be aware of people who are only looking to get something out of you and those who have genuine intention. Those are genuine will not take advantage of you. They will give as much as they will take. They will value you and respect your decision to put yourself first. They will never make you feel bad for pursuing your needs and desires over their own. Instead, they will lift you up and will be the support and assurance you need to feel confident in yourself and your decisions.
Accept that you can’t please everyone. There is over 7 billion people in this world. I can tell you now that not all of them will love you or care about you. People have their own lives and opinions. You have the power over how others will affect you. You don’t have to stand for anyone’s bullshit. You can walk away. You can move forward. You can turn left or right. You don’t have to entertain people’s requests when they don’t matter. Once you realize this, you can welcome the feeling of freedom. You can live a life that is yours without always having to worry about the people outside yourself.
It’s time for you to stop feeling small. You don’t have to feel like you’re not important enough. Because you deserve to live a life that is full of happiness, promise, and opportunity.