1. You go for people who are emotionally unavailable.
You know it’ll never work out, but you go for it anyway. You invest time and emotions and energy into someone who can’t emotionally reciprocate it. It’s going for something you know you’ll never get but you like the chase.
2. Or just the same type.
Insanity is doing the same thing but expecting different results. You keep going for that player who has you dialed. You have a type. Sadly this type continues to hurt you but that’s kind of a weird quality you are seeking. He’s an asshole but you seem to like assholes.
3. You keep going back to the same person.
You’re constantly running back to the same person who has already hurt you or each of you guys are running in circles trying to make this something that it isn’t. You can’t force relationships and no matter how many times you find your way back to each other, it isn’t fate as much as it is stupidity.
4. You are only reading the signs you want to.
You are looking for any reason to stick with this person and keep them around. You are disregarding every red flag they throw at you because you only see what you want to see.
5. You aren’t listening to your friend’s advice.
Your friend hates this person or the type you go for. And every time you go to them for advice when you have a problem and you don’t take it, it’s a slap in the face to them. You’re hurting yourself by not following what they say.
6. You aren’t listening to anyone at all.
You do whatever the heck you want then come back crying wondering why the same thing you do every time has left you in a puddle of your own tears. And your friends want to support you but you make it hard.
And sometimes even the person you’re interested in will spell it out for you, but that’s not what you want to hear so you don’t listen.
7. You don’t love yourself enough to not tolerate this shit.
You keep trying to love people into teaching you to love yourself. That’s not how it works.
8. You secretly like something you can predict.
You like controlling things and when it involves someone else, you lose that control a bit. So if you continue with the same patterns even if these things and people are toxic, at least you’ll know how it’ll play out.
You might hate heartbreak. But you don’t hate it enough to change your ways.
9. You fear falling in love.
At the end of the day, you’re afraid to be happy so you cling to hookups and fake relationships because if you didn’t and you got it right, suddenly you’d have something to lose. Suddenly you’d have someone to actually be sad about if you ever lost them. But you don’t let the right people close enough to heal the pain so instead, you cling to all the wrong people giving parts of yourself away wondering why you aren’t whole.