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Strong Women.

The headstrong and self-sufficient woman — one who knows her worth can never be devalued — is one of the great paragons of femininity in our society.

Case in point? Strong women will almost always choose to be single rather than compromise by dating a jerk.

They know what they want and they aren’t afraid to work for it. On the flipside, they know what they don’t want and won’t get suckered into settling for less.

This is what a strong woman truly cannot abide — a man who cannot devote himself to being in a relationship.

While there are some women who may fall for the “you want what you can’t have” schtick, a woman who knows her true worth won’t put up with it, for a host of excellent reasons.

The primary reason is that high level of inner confidence. Strong women know who they are, and they don’t need a man or a relationship to help define that.

They will give their own emotions priority, stay authentic regardless of the situation, and won’t put up a front for anyone.

Which leads into the second reason strong women will pick being alone over being with a jerk — because they aren’t afraid of a bit of temporary loneliness.

They know true happiness comes from within, so they don’t need to waste their time chasing after someone who can’t provide even a modicum of emotional stability.

And this all culminates in the final point — strong women know that a relationship isn’t supposed to be something to cling to avoid being alone.

Relationships are about a true connection with two people who are compatible and complementary in their personalities.

Why, then, would they demean their self-worth by wasting their time on someone who doesn’t feel the same?

They wouldn’t of course, which is why strong women feel so comfortable going their own way until the right partner comes into their lives.

In the interim, they’ll focus on improving themselves and finding happiness in whatever else appeals to them — a life philosophy that would benefit just about anyone.

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God, Are You Listening?

I really have a feeling that God’s not listening to me.

I pray every night, I talk to Him, and I really believe He can hear me.

Or at least, I used to believe it. Now I don’t even know anymore because nothing ever changes.

It all stays the same. My prayers seem to go unnoticed and forgotten, stacked with thousands of other prayers somewhere in the back of the room covered in dust in Heaven.  

Is God choosing to ignore me?

I mean, I know that there are so many people around us with so many problems that are definitely bigger and more serious than mine, but isn’t God almighty?

Shouldn’t He have time for all of us, all the time?

Somehow I think He doesn’t.

It’s either that, which I still refuse to believe, or He’s making me wait.

It’s taking so long for me to get that one thing I’ve been praying for such a long time.

That one thing that would change my life for the better, that one thing I can’t get for myself.

Believe me, I’ve tried so many times and always failed.

I know He has something to do with that, too.

Once again, He’s making me fail because it’s not the right time.

I hate that He gets to choose that – He gets to choose when the time is right, and all of us are supposed to wait and trust Him.

I know that’s true and that He’s right deep in my heart, but I can’t always believe it.

I’m sorry, I’m really trying, but sometimes the anger and disappointment growing inside me light a shadow over faith… over God.

Sometimes doubt is bigger than my faith. 

After praying for so long with nothing changing even the slightest, I catch myself thinking that I’m doing something wrong, that my prayers aren’t good enough, that if I’d choose better words, the prayers would come to Him.

I’ve been needing God’s attention and I not knowing how to get it.

It’s not about the words. I’ll tell you that right away. 

I’ll tell you what I’ve realized in my doubt. God is not there for you just at the moment you need Him.

God doesn’t remember the things you’ve been praying about for a couple of months.

He remembers what was in your heart from the moment you had a conscience, from the moment you learned to feel.

He knows exactly what you think about, why you hurt, and how deep the pain is.

You don’t have to explain to Him how you feel. He knows it.

And I’ve foolishly forgotten His power.

I’ve been thinking that he doesn’t hear me – that He doesn’t want to hear me.

It’s never crossed my mind that He wants me to be patient.

God created you. He gave you life and He knows what you’re made of. He knows everything about you.

He knows exactly how much you can take and He will never doubt you like we all sometimes doubt Him.

It all comes down to one thing: God always gives you what you need, but what you need is not always what your heart wants.

You can shout from the top of your lungs, you can choose whatever words to say to Him, or you can stay silent.

Either way, it won’t change anything. It won’t change His mind.

Remember that God always knows what you want to say, so there’s no need to worry that you won’t express yourself the right way.

God is not that simple and we all know it.

Faith is not easy. But, what if God is only testing you.

What if God is testing me right now?

I started writing this article with anger in my words, with the frustration of not being understood.

Somehow, along the way, my words softened and my anger mixed with doubt slowly grew to hope and faith again.

Was it all just a test?

To see if I’m going to stay loyal even when He’s absolutely silent?

I know that God will never leave me all alone.

I just didn’t know that maybe I was talking too much and listening to absolutely nothing.

I’ve been too focused on getting what I want that maybe I haven’t even seen all the signs He’s sending me every day, especially in the moments when I don’t pay attention.

Maybe God works best when you’re silent – when you can’t say anything.

Maybe trusting God with your heart at that exact moment is the best thing you can do.


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Mourning And Grieving.

I’m sure you’ve heard people saying that time heals all wounds, no matter how deep and severe they might be.

People saying that no matter the trauma you’ve been through, one day, time knocks on your door, magically heals you and makes everything better.

You just have to be patient and have enough faith because sooner or later, you always recover.

Your soul always finds a way to fix itself, and eventually, you get over whatever pain you’re dealing with.

Whatever darkness you got yourself into, there will always come light, even when you least expect it.

However deep the despair you’ve fallen into, there will always come a straw you can hold on to save you.

At least, that is what all of us want and need to believe in.

These are the thoughts that give us hope for a better tomorrow and often the only thing that keeps us alive and going.

The thoughts that force us to keep going, even when we think there is no way out. The thoughts that give us hope that we won’t forever feel the way we do now.

Well, I have to break your bubble and tell you the awful, harsh and bitter truth: things don’t always go this way.

Whether you like to hear it or not, the fact is that there are some things you never manage to fully overcome and some people you never manage to get over.

There are some things you just accept and learn to live with, simply because you have no other choice.

There are events you never forget, but only get through. 

There are types of pain that leave permanent marks on your heart and soul. Yes, your wounds partially heal but invisible and inerasable scars remain forever.

This especially goes for the people you lose forever. The people which heaven took away from you, and the people you know will never come back.

Let me reveal a dark secret to you: when something like this happens, a part of you never stops mourning and grieving your loss.

A part of you always remains hurt and damaged, no matter how much you think you’ve healed.

Yes, things do get easier after a while. The tears dry on your face, and you start smiling about little things again.

After some time, you start to breathe without having to remind yourself to do so. You start to look forward to the new days which will come.

After some time, you become aware of the fact that you won’t literally and physically die from the pain.

Nevertheless, you also realize that it certainly has the power to spiritually kill you.

You come to the realization that you’ll never forget and that you’ll keep on going through life without ever managing to fully get rid of the pain.

You realize that you’ll never live as if nothing has happened and that you’ll just continue surviving.

You see, when you lose a loved one, you also lose a part of yourself together with them.

You lose the person you were while they were by your side, and you lose your unscarred heart.

When you really love someone, you can never stop loving them, despite the time you spend apart and despite everything they might do to you.

The same goes with loss: when you lose someone you really loved, you never stop thinking about them, and you never stop missing them.

Every loss changes the essence of who you are. It turns you into a completely different person, and sometimes, it even kills your sparkle for good.

It makes you see that life isn’t always fair; that it isn’t all fun and games.

It makes you accept the fact that sometimes, destiny knocks you down, despite it being the last thing you deserved. 

It makes you realize that you can’t always make a difference and that there are some things in life you have no other choice but to accept and deal with the best way you can.

Yes, all of it makes you stronger and helps you toughen up.

It helps you learn some valuable life lessons, and it makes you wiser and more mature.

But at what cost?